Monday, January 24, 2011

Something from the Heart

Source: Parker J
We overheard a groom sharing with his Bestman his fears about reciting his vows at the ceremony. Both him and his bride had written their own vows and he had tried his best to memorized them the night before but now with 200 people at the ceremony, he has blanked out. So what did his Bestman do? He gave the Groom a shot of vodka, patted his back and said, "All you have to do is look at her and the words will come. Don't worry, if all fails, just tell her that you love her till death do you part and recite the lyrics of the song 'I Swear' from All for One." 

And did it work? Yes! He said the most beautiful things about his bride and how much she meant to him and of course that he loved her till death do them part. 

There are many ways to make a wedding more special and having personalized vows is a start. So here are some tips:

a) Keep it short, sweet and straight from the heart. They are meant to be your promises to each other, not the chronicles of your love life. 
b) About 2-3 mins each is good. 
c) Look at each other when saying your vows. The last thing you want is reading off a folded A4 size paper and looking like a politician!

Other ideas - Having a friend or family member recite your favorite poetry is also another way. We had a bride's father recite this beautiful poem for the newly weds. We were not sure if there was any underlying meaning but we loved it and wanted to share this by Wilferd Arlan Peterson:

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, 

it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner

The Wedding Stylist Team
Wedding Planners Singapore

Source: Style Me Pretty